During any time of big change or adjustment in your life, feeling homesick is completely normal. (Really shitty, but really normal)
About 3 years ago, I was extremely homesick when I first moved away to college. I moved from a small town on Long Island where I pretty much knew everyone at my school, to a whole different world in downtown Los Angeles. I had just turned 18 and moved 2 weeks after graduating high school, and had no idea what I was in for. During my first few months, I’d call my mom and be so close to jumping on a plane and going home way too many times. I stuck it out and ended up getting a really unique education, meeting the best people, and experiencing things I never knew existed. It’s crazy how different I would be as a person if I just gave that opportunity up because I missed what was comfortable.
The last few weeks I’ve felt almost just as homesick as I did when I was 18. I’ve been missing the past a little extra lately, which I think just came along with all of the change that has happened in my life over the past few years. I’ve come up with a list of things that have helped me then and now. Whether you’re a freshman in college and want to go back to high school, or finally moved out of your parent’s house for good and are ready to go back, I hope this helps you get through it! Change is never easy but it’s all part of the process.
It’s normal– Missing home after just moving away is SO normal and you are not wrong for feeling this way. If you have an older sibling, friend, or anyone who has made a big move, I’m sure they’ve felt the same at one point. Transitions are never easy and take time. Instead of sugar coating it, acknowledge it! Figure out a way to make it better instead of a way to push it aside until tomorrow.
Make your new room more “you”– Whether you’re in a dorm or a new apartment, make it the most “you” that you can! Make it a place that has a touch of home, but also of who you hope to be (like an inspo board) to push you further, but to also remind you of where you came from. In my new room right now, I have a blanket that was on my bed in my old house that we just moved out of. It’s so simple but so comforting at night. This room is a complete different vibe than my old one, and my view alone is enough to inspire me every day. I have a touch of home, but I also have a new space to take advantage of and get creative with.
Old and new friends- Keep in touch with your home friends and don’t be hesitant to make new ones. There’s so many different people out there with backgrounds, families, cultures, stories, and just overall lifestyles that we’re so unfamiliar with. I know that when I went to college, the variety of pretty much everything was such a shock to me. It was so cool to be around people from different cities and countries. So don’t be shy! If you’re in college, you’re all pretty much in the same no friend boat, so someone has to make the first move. But don’t get too distracted with the change and lose touch with your home friends. You don’t have to talk every day, but continue to show effort even if you have a busy schedule. You’ll notice you will start to just naturally grow apart from people, but never let them think you don’t still care about them.
A phone call a day- What has really helped me is calling someone from home once a day, even if it’s for 5 minutes. Recently I’ve been calling or facetiming my mom when I step out of work to get lunch and it honestly distracts me from anything that’s stressing me out. Have a quick phone call with a parent, sibling, or friend and it could really turn your mood around.
Home for the holidays- Visit home when you have a long weekend or around the holidays, but don’t be so attached to home that you’re back every weekend. You’re just going to push the homesickness off and off until it’s built up way too much. Resist the urge to hop on a bus or flight home and make plans with someone new! Growth and independence doesn’t come from just going back and forth, it comes from sticking it out and knowing you’ll be home before you know it. Plus, it makes trips home that much more special.
Look forward to the future – There must be some reason as to why you are where you are, so don’t waste your time not making this the best and most productive experience it can be. If you’re following a dream you had since you’re little, or now living in a city that you always wanted to, make that person proud. Do everything you can to get everything out of the experience as possible. Before you know it, it will be behind you and you don’t want to regret wasting the time away.
I hope whatever kind of homesick situation you’re going through gets easier! You can always message me if you need someone to talk to. 🙂