Going through a breakup is never easy, and can be a really lonely and confusing time. No love is the same, and no breakup is the same. I could go on about all the things that can help you deal with it a little bit better, but I can’t give you all the answers or heal your broken heart. Whether it’s your first love, or someone you saw yourself spending the rest of your life with, getting used to someone really special to you not being in your life anymore is an unexplainable feeling.
The first and most important thing when going through a breakup and getting over someone is knowing that it’s ok to hurt. It’s normal to cry and feel the physical pain in your chest. I’ve been there, and I’m sure a ton of you reading this have been there too. So no matter who tells you to get over it and suck it up right away has clearly never had feelings as deep before. The worst thing you could do is push your emotions to the side and pretend you’re fine. Admit to yourself that you’re sad, cry it out, and acknowledge the pain. It hurts but it’s good to get it out.
Surround yourself with people you love. One of my best friends and I went through a break up at the same time and laid in bed for days together. We talked it out, laughed, definitely cried, and kept each other company. I don’t know what I would’ve done without her. Not only will this keep your mind off your ex, but it’ll have your friends looking out for you and making sure you’re taking care of yourself.
Unfollow & block them. It’s not healthy to get into a habit of constantly checking up on what they’re up to or who they’re with. Continuously checking their social media isn’t doing anything beneficial for you so don’t take the time to look.
Avoid alcohol and drugs. Those are just negative ways to cope with the pain and you could really end up hurting yourself or doing something stupid.
Use this time of being single to put all of that love and energy to yourself. Take what felt like it was trying to break you and find ways to build yourself up. Know that you’re 10000% capable of doing everything you ever wanted to do, and having everything you ever wanted to have on your own. You have so many amazing qualities that you might have lost sight of because you were focusing on someone else. Do the things you love and make yourself the best version of you possible.
Don’t seek revenge. Don’t jump right into something new just because you’re bored or want to make them jealous. That could end up hurting you even more, and hurting the person you’re using to get over your ex. YOU have to fill the gap that has been left behind. If you try to find someone else to do that, I promise you will never come out as a stronger person.
Always forgive. Forgive them for you. No matter what went down, or how bad they might have hurt you, it’s always much easier to forgive and move on with your life. There’s no need to hold onto negative energy and wish bad things upon someone. Wish them the best in everything they do.
Last but not least, never run back to what broke you. Forgiving someone doesn’t always mean you should let them back into your life.